Re: Vdekja e idealizmit
You are, but it is not your fault. Rand says, it's Kant's fault, he convinced people that altruism exists, that it is a value and that we should embrace it.
It is exactly Rand's point. You don't know what it is because it does not exist. There exists only a romantic remembrance of what it should be, thus everyone can give you a different definition. You yourself can give us several definitions.
The last two sentences answer to your third question: yes! It is relative! Although some people speak of absolute values, which in the end of the day should be reduced to a single one: there is only objective truth. It is not innate, you learnt it in the most subtle of ways, by using everyday speech, which is full of axioms that tell you about the ideal and that you should look for it.
No, it is not the same as mine, it can never be. They call us both idealistic, because as the Zodiac both of our idealisms are so broad and general that we can make ourselves fit in that vague definition of the idealist human being.
Aquarians are idealistic because they (according to the Zodiak) are the sign of the future. They live with their head in the future, they long for progress and development and for fairness. These things are considered as idealistic, because most people justify themselves and refuse to do it, in particular they step on fairness and pretend you don't get hurt, because in the end of the day, being human means being weak, and to be honest and fair is a heroic deed of some sort of ideal future human being, which currently does not exist, or according to conservatives: did exist in the past but it is presently either extint or an endangered species.
Because you are taking the long way to yourself. You don't need to go that far to look inside you and understand yourself. Maybe you go that way, because for you it is most important what others think of you.
This is wrong, if you ask me. Stop thinking of what they think! Stop thinking of what they feel! Stop and look at your innerself. You will realize that you are a very beautiful person (although very does not make sense in front of beautiful, because it is a maximizing adjective) and that there is in you so much, that you exceed any possible image of ideal, because you are not a walking image, you are a human being with an essence. So rare, it makes it a gift beyond the understanding of the masses, beyond even the understanding of the ideal man (in the sense of the human being)!