Re: a ka naj femer qe gjate aktit sexual do te rrihet??
funlovin: If you have any questions of a personal character for me, you can ask me in private, and i may respond to you. otherwise, i think it is fruitless to take the question on a MORE personal level than it is necessary.
for sykaltra: just because you are curious it doesn't mean that i have to start writing in albanian. you don't have to participate, but if you choose to, do so at your own risk. it is a general attitude among you guys that when you feel left out of a conversation, either because you don't quite understand the language or because any language other than albanian irritates you, etc. etc., then you feel that you must find a way (no matter how absurd and unrelated) to slap on the face the person writing in english, italian, or swedish--forgetting that it is a fact of life for many young albanian immigrants that they feel more comfortable writing in their 2nd language than their first. you may think it's absurd and impossible, but i have no desire to prove to you anything, least of all show off my new york cool by insisting on english(!?). for me it's a practical question; my albanian is usually saved for my parents, because it is the only time i feel i have no alternative. I'm sorry that it offends you; it is not my intention. but i am glad that albforum recognizes that there are many of us here in this forum (and were here before the forum was founded) who are growing older speaking languages other than albanian on a daily basis (predominantly english i think), and thus are willing to allow us to write in english as well for the sake of communication. And being able to communicate is about more than just being able to write in albanian. in fact, what i see most randomly happen in these forums is people writing in their mother tongue and hardly finding a common language among them: their discussions cannot even be called that; they are miserable ramblings. my fear is they haven't learn how to communicate with each other. Maybe this is where we need to start from: how to communicate with each other in a decent and productive way. One suggestion is to start by not ruining certain discussion topics of common interest with personal attacks or comments/questions of a personal nature, since the forum already provides such sensible ways for people to communicate about things that come up in our disccusions in a private manner while preserving a certain public ethos of communication among us, and at the same time making communication on many levels possible.
I am sorry i had to go at such length about a seemingly minor question which is also unrelated to the main topic. I've been seeing the life and progress in this forum (or its lack)long enough to have a fair sense by now about the difficulties facing our general ability to approach a question and stick to unraveling the possibilities for answering it through proper discussion without drifting into cheap unrelated talk and ad hominem attacks.
askam hecur me hapa gjigande!! what's the point of that? to show that you're behind? you may have not meant it that way, but there is no one who can open up your heart to find out. in fact, no one is even interested. so the only thing worth doing is to talk among ourselves like adults and not kids who want to talk about things they are not willing to face, or see them for what they are, afraid of their own sexuality and uncertain about voicing anything deviating from the norm....