Love Heals Old Sorrows
Each one of us has leftover pain from childhood that follows us. It hurts like hell, and we would do anything to get rid of it. It is always there. It doesn’t leak, it doesn’t move it doesn’t give it is kind of like a breast implant, but it is a pain implant. The pain encompasses all the things you fear will happen to you, at the love you didn’t get, the fact that it is just so hard you feel safe.</p>
The honeymoon stage of love makes us believe that the pain is gone, but one day a realization hits with all the force of an Evander Holyfield right hook: The pain is still there. The hurts of childhood are still there. The relationship didn’t make them go away. In fact, the relationship intensified them.</p>
To redo your love with a happier outcome, you must borrow your partner to finish your parents job. That is why , when the honeymoon is over, all that old hurts comes back double time. Only when you love do you let someone get close enough to your heart to reawaken all the dependant feelings you had in that first hopeless love affair with your parents. When he rushes to get you can of Coke before you know you are thirsty, a cookie before you asked, a napkin before you even know you need one, it is a familiar feeling , a feeling of re-finding something very treasured, very old, lost.</p>
And when all that old hurt comes back, it is important to know that this doesn’t necessarily happen because your parents did a lousy job, it doesn’t necessarily happen because your partner didn’t give you the kind of love you needed. Though psychology books tell us that we fully formed human beings by the time we hit our teens that becoming well adjusted is something that is supposed to happen to us by the time we go off to college. I don’t think this is true. Our parents aren’t meant to finish the job of helping us develop. We are meant to become fully formed human beings in our adult relationships with others. We finish the wok of growing up and growing into out true personalities in our relationships. We pick up the past and work it out in the present with our partners.</p>
Your relationship with your partner is your chance to re find the sorrows of childhood and heal them. A relationships provides a way to undo childhood hurt, childhood rage. It is your chance be soothed for all those times you needed something and didn’t get it . Yes , love heals. The hard part is that it never seems to heal all we count on it to heal. Love refuses to be a magic wand. The other hard part is that, in order for your relationship to do its work of healing, you have got to re experience the pain. That is why you picked the person who could take you there. You did not to frustrate yourself, but to help yourself let go of the past and to continue developing yourself as a person in the present in a relationship.</p>
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Each one of us has leftover pain from childhood that follows us. It hurts like hell, and we would do anything to get rid of it. It is always there. It doesn’t leak, it doesn’t move it doesn’t give it is kind of like a breast implant, but it is a pain implant. The pain encompasses all the things you fear will happen to you, at the love you didn’t get, the fact that it is just so hard you feel safe.</p>
The honeymoon stage of love makes us believe that the pain is gone, but one day a realization hits with all the force of an Evander Holyfield right hook: The pain is still there. The hurts of childhood are still there. The relationship didn’t make them go away. In fact, the relationship intensified them.</p>
To redo your love with a happier outcome, you must borrow your partner to finish your parents job. That is why , when the honeymoon is over, all that old hurts comes back double time. Only when you love do you let someone get close enough to your heart to reawaken all the dependant feelings you had in that first hopeless love affair with your parents. When he rushes to get you can of Coke before you know you are thirsty, a cookie before you asked, a napkin before you even know you need one, it is a familiar feeling , a feeling of re-finding something very treasured, very old, lost.</p>
And when all that old hurt comes back, it is important to know that this doesn’t necessarily happen because your parents did a lousy job, it doesn’t necessarily happen because your partner didn’t give you the kind of love you needed. Though psychology books tell us that we fully formed human beings by the time we hit our teens that becoming well adjusted is something that is supposed to happen to us by the time we go off to college. I don’t think this is true. Our parents aren’t meant to finish the job of helping us develop. We are meant to become fully formed human beings in our adult relationships with others. We finish the wok of growing up and growing into out true personalities in our relationships. We pick up the past and work it out in the present with our partners.</p>
Your relationship with your partner is your chance to re find the sorrows of childhood and heal them. A relationships provides a way to undo childhood hurt, childhood rage. It is your chance be soothed for all those times you needed something and didn’t get it . Yes , love heals. The hard part is that it never seems to heal all we count on it to heal. Love refuses to be a magic wand. The other hard part is that, in order for your relationship to do its work of healing, you have got to re experience the pain. That is why you picked the person who could take you there. You did not to frustrate yourself, but to help yourself let go of the past and to continue developing yourself as a person in the present in a relationship.</p>
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